Make More. Do Good. Live Well

How Would You Describe Your Relationship With Money?

Are you inspired when you meet or hear of someone who is wealthy?

Or do you roll your eyes and think that they are “spoiled, bratty, privileged and greedy”?

A few weeks ago, I was at the library with my family when I was flagged down by a woman who recognized me from my book. Before I knew it, she was sitting with me at my table and “picking my brain” as she rattled off her thoughts and takeaways.

She explained that she found herself this year, in her mid 40s, on her first true quest of self-discovery and empowerment as she became conscious of the choices that she was making in her life.

As she continued on, she then told me how she loved reading empowerment works like mine and she listed other authors as she concluded her statement by saying “but I just don’t like when they start talking about prosperity so I skip over those parts.”

As a coach and someone who is very in tune with human behavior, I knew immediately that money was a trigger for her and most definitely, a huge key to taking her power back in her life and her business.

Money is an inanimate object. It is a resource. It is a tool.

However, your relationship with money can make or break your financial abundance.

In today’s training video, Traci reminds us that “we can do more with, than we can do without.”

Having money, setting large financial goals, creating wealth is not about greed. It is about creating freedom, opportunity and leveraging a resource that can not only change your life but everyone’s life around you.

40% of women in the U.S are breadwinners. As this statistic drastically increases yearly- along with statistics that place women as the majority of business owners- we must each take the time to question and explore our ideas and belief systems surrounding money.

Maybe you can easily see yourself attaining six figures but the idea of million dollar revenues is creating an emotional trigger for you. Get curious about what you feel.

If you feel yourself uncomfortable about this conversation, trust me, you definitely need to watch this week’s 2 minute training video from Traci as she discusses “Making More, Doing Good And Living Well.”

 

 

 

LIZ J. SIMPSON

Global Director & Co-Dream Maker, GYGB™

liz@gygb.com | www.gygb.com

My Vulnerable Confession

Hi, I am Liz Simpson- the new global director for #GetYourGirlBack.

Some of you I have spoken with through email and many of you I spoke with on Tuesday’s Master Class. However, there are so many of you that I am eager to get to know and support!

 

Earlier this year when I came on board to the Get Your Girl Back movement- there was this inexplicable feeling of intuition that my partnership with Traci would be miraculous and life-changing, not only for us, but for the many women who are touched by this incredible movement.

 

However, my confession today lies in the fact that there was a part of me that was unsettled and a little bit bothered by the branding of pink and purple butterflies and the light discussion over dream journals and “wishing” our way into a reality we once dreamed.

 

For quite some time I was unsure of the core of my feelings, so I spent time meditating and journaling and just being still so that I could be clear with what my intuition was really trying to clue me in on.

 

After a while- I came to understand it.

 

See, what I do understand about Traci Bild is that she created this movement of #GetYourGirlBack not to have a cutesy brand with purple butterflies and to share photos of her life on the gulf coast while traveling the world with her adorable family… but she created this movement because the principles behind this movement have quite literally saved her life.

 

I know … because I recognize the same passion in her that lives inside of me. It’s like looking into a mirror.

 

The life you are dreaming of is quite literally on the other side of your fear and your excuses.

And while I was able to pack those words into one simple sentence- the power and truth that exists within them is immeasurable.

 

There is a choice that you make.

It is a choice to stop with the excuses, to live in spite of fear and to walk in the unknown because you realize anything less- to live a life any less fulfilled- would be a life filled with regret and dissatisfaction, a life that is merely reminiscent of death.

 

Traci is an amazing example of what is possible.

And until you have the faith to stand in your own truth of possibility- you can, for a season, borrow faith from seeing her example and witnessing her truth.

 

But there comes a time when you must choose it for yourself.

 

As a woman who once was a single, abused mother who lived in a battered women’s shelter for nine months- I am all too familiar with fear, doubt, lack, low self-worth and excuses. And it brings tears to my eyes, quite literally, when I look back on the moment that I chose to stop being a victim in the story of my own life.

 

I chose to fake belief in myself until the day I looked in the mirror and that belief was real. I chose to change my mindset, my behavior and ultimately my habits- at first simply because I thought I had nothing left to lose- and before I knew it, I was living in a reality that was once beyond my wildest dreams.

That decision was the catalyst for every facet of my life to exponentially bloom. Those principles transformed my career, my relationships and even put me on the fast track in business.

 

As “Get Your Girl Back” continues to make a comeback in your email inbox and across the globe to the over 25,000 women in our midsts- I want you to know that this movement is larger than a brand, a webinar, a program or even a retreat.

 

This movement is a wake up call for you to recognize the immeasurable power that you hold as a woman.

 

Traci and I will never ask you to make an investment we’ve never made in our own lives, we’ll never pretend that changing your life is comfortable but we will challenge you to do what is necessary and courageous so that you can stop chasing a dream and start embodying your dream life.

 

While Traci and I both are entrepreneurs who have a passion to teach women how to lead profitable businesses that create impact and do good- more than anything we realize that we can give you every system, tool, method or resource available- but if you are not winning the battle in your own mind and over your habits, those systems will be in vain.

 

This is about saving your life. No matter what lies in your past or what your present circumstances appear to be as you read this email- I know with complete certainty that you have the power to create the life that is pulling on your spirit and invading your dreams.

 

When you’re ready to rise to that awareness, Traci and I are here with open arms to celebrate your journey and to offer whatever is necessary to catapult your growth and success.

 

Today Traci sent me a video that she felt was extremely moving. I agree. This video captures the heart and soul of the #GetYourGirlBack movement.

 

Watch it and share it with another women who you care enough about to challenge her to rise to living HER all.

 

Traci and I share it with you today because we care enough to call you out and dare you to not only dream…but to live your dreams.

 

“Friends love you just the way you are. Coaches love you too much to allow you to stay the same.” -Anonymous

Press Play below to watch this inspirational video. 

 

P.S.

“If you want to go fast, go alone.
If you want to go far, go together.”
-African Proverb

 

LIZ J. SIMPSON

Global Director & Co-Dream Maker, GYGB™

liz@gygb.com | www.gygb.com

 

#GYGB Is Headed To Italy!

Are you going to join us?

Traci and I wholeheartedly agree on many things- one being that nothing recharges, revitalizes or inspires quite like travel; the ultimate escape.

Together we asked … “what if?”
“What if” we could bring a group of women together to revisit what’s possible for their lives Under The Tuscan Sun?

Check out the video below to discover what Traci and #GetYourGirlBack have decided to do!

Tuscany Italy Retreat 2017 from Traci Bild on Vimeo.

 

For more details on joining us, visit www.gygbtuscany2017.com

Don’t Follow The Herd!

What is YOUR zone of genius?

 

What industry, niche or specialty do you feel you’ve mastered and know like the back of your hand?

 

Many years ago, Traci was invited to train a team in the senior housing industry. While she was skeptical at first and wondered what she could contribute- she trusted her systems and dove in, head first.

 

Twenty years later, she has not only built a multi-million dollar consulting firm but she has also created multiple millions of dollars in increased revenue for her clients. (For many clients, she has accomplished this in less than 90 days using her proven system & methodologies!)

 

The lesson she learned: go small, go deep and become the guru of your industry.

In other words, “Don’t Follow the Herd”.

 

Click on the short 2 minute video below to find out this week’s tip and how you can apply it to grow YOUR business!

 

Don’t Follow The Herd from Traci Bild on Vimeo.

P.S.

“If you want to go fast, go alone. If you want to go FAR, go together.” -African Proverb.

Share today’s video and the #GetYourGirlBack Movement with someone in your life that you’d like to inspire. Let’s go far as women together!

The Power of Your Dreams

 

Can I just take a moment and say that YOU freaking rock??!!

Earlier this week, we provided a survey and asked you to share what you dream of, desire and need.

Before we knew it, the responses were POURING in!

There were countless comments that delighted us and some really touched our hearts- reminding us of why this movement is necessary for women. (Thank you!)

As response after response came in- there was an underlying theme of busy, ambitious women who want to take a huge bite out of life and feel reconnected to their sense of self.

Going forward, Traci will share a weekly video to inspire you and to provide a lifestyle/business tip to guide you along your journey. (As quite a few of you requested!)

And of course, it only made sense in this week’s video that Traci share what she dreams of- and the power behind our dreams.

After watching the video below, feel free to join us on our facebook page and share your thoughts and response!

P.S.

If you haven’t had a chance to speak up and share your voice with us- it’s not too late!

Click here if you are an entrepreneur/business owner

Click here if you do NOT own a business

Are You Living in Fear or Possibility?

For the past fifteen years I have called upon an amazing woman, whom I refer to as “My wise sage,” to help me in times of confusion, doubt or struggle. Her actual name is Sue. I’ve never met her in person, have no idea what she looks like but consider her one of the most influential women in my life and her advice and intuition is spot on.

Talking to Sue recently, she said something that rocked me to my core. “Traci, it seems you’re living in fear of the future instead of the possibility in it.” I felt the blood drain from my head and as if I might pass out. Seriously, it hit me like a ton of bricks because she was right and I had no idea.

Most disturbing is that I had always lived my life from a place of possibility- excited about the future- creating it first in my dream journals and then meticulously through very clear goal setting. Not once have I doubted my ability to do something and Sue knew this because she’s been coaching me for 15 years and seen it firsthand. So what changed?

I know it sounds really contrite but the only thing that changed was my thinking. In truth, something has been off in my mind for the past six months and I’ve struggled to access that part of my brain that instills confidence, belief and pure drive. At 44 I was thinking perhaps it was my age and something chemical- or at least that was an easy out for me. But when Sue said, “You’re living in fear of the future,” she unlocked my power- literally. That very day I instantly felt better because I knew what was wrong, my focus and thinking was off. Rather than put energy toward what it is I wanted, I was giving it to what I didn’t want and was afraid might happen in my life.

The brain is a very tricky organ. It needs a job and if you don’t give it one- a clear one, it will take over and in most cases, fill you with doubt, fear and anxiety. For me, this trigger built up due to actions I took in my consulting firm, Bild and Company. I had hired a new CEO the year prior to run my national organization; something I had done myself for over 20 years. While he has done a fantastic job, I never worked through the grieving process of “giving up my position” and also felt powerless to run my business because I had literally handed the job over to someone else. Known to many as the Mindset Mentor, I for sure had lost that ability over the past six months. What I didn’t lose was my refusal to live a mediocre life. Instinctually I knew I was losing the battle of the mind, but simply couldn’t figure out how to regain control. Refusing to give in, it finally hit me- I need to call Sue and thus the beginning of the story.

Almost like a fairy god mother waiving her wand, with one sentence Sue returned my power. Instantly I felt my mind, mood and spirit shift back to living in possibility. I couldn’t do better because I didn’t know better; now I do.

Even more powerful is the process I’ve been engaged in to find one “word” or phrase to encompass what the Get Your Girl Back movement is about. All I can say is God is good because through this experience, tough as it has been, he revealed it to me (and you are going to be among the first to hear it!).

I’ve always lived my life in possibility but many women have not. Before I could help others with this final piece of the puzzle, I had to experience it personally- not what it’s like to live in possibility- but the despair of living my life in fear.

I understand now- Get Your Girl Back for me has always been about possibility- how could I have missed it? The possibility to live an abundant life, the possibility to have a beautiful marriage, the possibility to enjoy great health, the possibility to raise well-mannered children who make a difference in the world, the possibility to use your natural talents and gifts in your work, the possibility to have financial freedom, the possibility to live in gratitude, the possibility to have balance and the possibility to have fulfillment in your life. There are SO MANY POSSIBILITIES! You just have to expect them to show up!

This is the possibility I’ve lived in since I was a girl- that along the way was lost- but regained. This is Get Your Girl Back- so go, live in possibility and make your life what you’ve always dreamed it would be. Comment here on my blog your thoughts, I would love to hear them.

Please, if this message resonates with you, help me spread the word to the women you know and love. Forward them the blog, encourage them to sign up for Notes From Your Girl or advise them to download a FREE dream journal and see what it feels like to map out their life and live in possibility. Just visit www.GYGB.com for any of these immediate actions. Thanks for supporting me through this journey. We are just getting started.

 

 

 

 

I Opened the Door to My Daughter’s Cage- and Let her Fly

Two weeks ago I was sitting with my daughter Paris at the Barnes & Noble coffee shop. We were looking through books and casually talking over a bowl of chili. Killing some time before going to gymnastics, Paris looked up at me and said, “I wish I didn’t have to go to gym today.”

How many times has Paris said this to me over the past two years?

How often have I listened?

This time, I heard her and replied, “How about we don’t go back?”

I thought Paris was going to pass out. She looked at me and said, “Really mommy?” While I felt pangs in the pit of my stomach, something told me this was the right thing to do. The truth is Paris had not enjoyed gymnastics for a long time. I’ll go so far as to say it stole a little bit of her girl- piece- by- piece. It had started to chip away at her confidence, joy and happiness and I stood idly by. Year after year she stayed on the team and when prompted as to why she stayed, Paris responded, “I’m not a quitter.”

Interesting…It wasn’t because she loved it but due to the pressure of “Not being a quitter.” Reflecting on her time as a gymnast, I did see a drastic change. What started as something fun to do in her spare time turned into a part time job- friends became competitors, giggles during practice turned to silence and joy turned to a daily grind. It was no longer about developing skills and taking on new challenges; it was about winning. So this time I followed my gut and with six simple words, “How about we don’t go back?” freed my daughter.

Did I do The Right Thing?

I’m not going to say I didn’t feel sick to my stomach and sad for a week or so because I did. This was our life. Paris was at the gym three hours a day, four days a week; after a long day at school. Then she had to do hours of homework, sometimes not getting to bed until 10 pm.

As time passed and I began to process our decision, I felt elated. By allowing Paris the freedom to make her own choice I realized she would be able to explore new things and tap into her true gifts and talents. She became excited about trying a dance class, tumbling clinic, an art class, French tutoring and girl scouts with her friends. Paris started riding the bus home after school instead of heading straight to the gym and we were able to spend quality time with her, as a family. She became more excited about school projects and even homework!

As I watched Paris I felt “freedom” ooze out of her. I can’t even explain the emotion. It was like a new beginning, with opportunities everywhere. For the first time in years, she was free.  So here’s what I will confess- I loved watching Paris do gymnastics…something about seeing her run across the floor doing a back hand spring- back tuck reminded me of…well, me. I was a cheerleader who learned to tumble in high school and credit cheerleading with saving my life- literally (that’s another blog!). Could it be that I was somehow living through her?

Never a competitive mom, I always encouraged Paris to have fun and do her best. Yet I wonder, had she been doing gymnastics for me? Was she afraid I would think she was a quitter if she left? Was she spending her free time in a sport we chose for her because she didn’t want to let me down? Rarely complaining, going through the motions day after day, year after year, Paris continued on…until I opened the door to her cage and released her.

This experience has taught me a lot. It’s so important to stop and evaluate life and to have the courage to change direction when the current one stops working. Failure to do so will slowly steal your girl- the one who is inspired, happy and joyful.

What do you need to change in your own life? What about the lives of your children? While change is never easy, the truth is- you can’t grow by remaining what you are. Rather than be afraid of what you might lose, get inspired by what you just might gain.

Written by Traci Bild- Author, Speaker & Entrepreneur. Get a FREE Get Your Girl Back Dream Journal and spend some time off-line filling the pages with the images of what you hope to do in your relationship or marriage in the next year or decade! Go to www.GYGB.com for an instant download.

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Stand Outside Your Windows and Look In- What Do You See?

This morning I was making my latte and listening to Pandora when the song Dave and I danced to at our wedding came on, The Hawaiian Wedding Song. It hit me like a ton of bricks and brought an immediate grin to my face. Turning it up, I stopped and looked around my home, “Who would have thought?”

If you’re married, odds are you remember everything about that moment too. As you swayed to the music you didn’t have a care in the world, this is where you were meant to be, with the people you loved most surrounding you in celebration. For most of us, our wedding song is one of those life moments we never forget (and for some people, one they wish they could forget).

I met Dave 22 years ago. We were kids with big dreams and all of 21 years old! He had shoulder length blond hair and mine was fire red with a rockin spiral perm. To this day Dave begs me to get that hair style back (yeah, right). Who would have thought that together we would travel the world, bury a parent (this wasn’t supposed to happen), start our careers, get married, buy a house (did we really have enough money to do this?), create two beautiful children and live to see the growth of…I’ll say it- grey hair! Can you relate?

Pondering our life together made me feel tremendous gratitude. It’s so easy to take what we have for granted. Whatever your situation, here’s a simple exercise for you to do today. Stop, go outside and look in the windows of your home. Objectively see your life as if a stranger looking in. Your perspective will completely change and instead of seeing what’s wrong, you will see what’s right.

Odds are you have a home, a family and food in the refrigerator. While this sounds pretty basic and a given, it’s not. Women all over the world are repressed in ways most of us can’t possibly imagine. So today, honor them by living in gratitude and truly taking in the blessings of your life. SEE your children, your partner, your furniture, your stove, your washer and dryer, your cabinets with food inside of them, your microwave, your floors, your walls with images of your life…take it all in. It’s beautiful isn’t it? This week, make this your mission- to see what’s beautiful and embrace the way it makes you feel.

Do me a favor, when you go outside and look in the window, come back and share on my blog how you felt and perhaps even what you saw. I would love to hear from you.

Written by Traci Bild, wife, mother, entrepreneur

www.GYGB.com  Get your FREE Get Your Girl Back Dream Journal Download and spend time working ON your life versus simply living IN it.

8 Steps to Organize Your Week

“Either you run the day or the day runs you.” Jim Rohn

Want to feel more empowered, in control and ready to jump into Monday- versus dreading it? Take some time today to or tomorrow to create your life map for the week and most importantly, PRIORITIZE your week and build it around the things that matter most to you.

So many women ask me how I plan my week so I’m giving you the nuts and bolts here. What matters is that you stop and make the time to do this for yourself. The way I teach this will result in your honoring the priorities that matter most in your life, bring fulfillment as well as a great sense of accomplish both at work and at home.

Here is my process:

  1. Set the Mood: Make a delicious latte or cup of tea, turn on your favorite music and go about crafting the week you wish to manifest. No more hoping, wishing and praying- it’s time for action. My routine is a yummy latte in my favorite coffee cup (that my beautiful mom gave me), a candle and the French Café on Pandora – so I can mentally escape to Paris.

 

  1. Get Your Tools: Gather everything you need to prepare for the week ahead. Calendars, colored pens, highlighters, etc. If you’re going to plan your week, you might as well make it fun.

 

  1. Organize the Week: Merge all family calendars into one. I use outlook so typically I’ll add everything in and color code it.

 

  1. Don’t Forget You! Once you organize your work and family calendar, get on the list! Build in when and where you will exercise and care for your health. I literally build yoga, spin, etc. into my calendar five days a week. It’s not always easy and there are days I simply can’t go but- it’s a game changer to allow yourself this time. Your body is the greatest asset you have and sadly, until it’s gone you may not realize this. Even if it’s a 20 minute walk before everyone wakes up for the day, get it on your calendar. Also add in date or time with a friend, even if just for lunch.

 

  1. Plan Your Meals: After the week is set you will have a better feel for what’s needed meal wise- whose going to be home when. Add the meal for each night into your evening calendar and even post the recipe or cookbook page in the notes section. The more you can eat at home, as a family- to meals that are healthy and planned ahead, the happier you will be. Trust me, it’s a mamma thing. We love to nourish those we love (even if you’re not a great cook, because trust me; I am not!). My favorite tools are Bon Appetit and the How to Cook Everything Fast cookbook. Oh and never feel guilty for buying cookbooks or subscribing to cooking magazines. You need the inspiration!

 

  1. Make Your Grocery List: Get a grocery app. Most are free and they will make shopping a breeze. I use My Shop which organizes items by category and allows you to make notes. You can email or text lists as well. Most importantly, you can add to the list all week so if you stop at the store unexpectedly, the list is with you.

 

  1. Pull Everything into a Capture Tool: Okay, this is the best part, what I call the cherry on top! Go into Outlook or whatever calendaring system you use and print out each individual page, Monday-Sunday. Review each day, add notes, highlight important events you do not want to miss and if you want, add an image or inspiring quote at the top of each page. Next print your task list, take all these papers and attach them to a clip board. This is your week’s life map- all captured in one spot, thus titled the Capture Tool. When in car lines, at sporting events or in the car, as papers are given or item to do, just put them on your capture tool clip board- all in one place. No more loose papers, sticky notes or scatter brain.

 

  1. Set Your Intention: The last thing to do is figure out your intention for the week- How do you want to feel, how do you intend to live your life in this coming week or what place will you spiritually, physically or mentally operate from? You get to decide! For example, mine last week was “I want to feel bold and empowered”. Setting your intention, writing it down and owning it gives you incredible power.

Guess what? You are ready to go! Forget being a victim of your week- it’s time to take control of your life.  Getting your girl back is about finding your power and choosing to craft the life you want. When you build the week, month and year around the priorities that matter most, AND HONOR those priorities, you will fulfill that emptiness that nags at you because you are out of balance.

I know this seems like a lot of work but isn’t your life and sanity worth it? I do this every weekend and you will need to set aside an hour because that’s how crazy life is and reining it all in takes some time. I imagine you can do it in 30 minutes if you wish too but my hope is that you will make this a ritual in your week, enjoy this time and allow yourself to embrace all the beautiful chaos of your life.

Want to get in control of your future as well? Download a FREE pdf of our Get Your Girl Back Dream Journal and start dreaming, planning and pondering what is possible for your life- http://gygb.com/download-the-first-chapter/

Please share this blog with the women you love, who are overwhelmed, a bit unorganized and who really want to change their lives. Together we can help them one day at a time.

Written by Traci Bild, Mother, wife, entrepreneur & founder of the  Get Your Girl Back Movement www.GYGB.com.

 

Embracing Imperfection

Sorting through three baskets of laundry that needed tucked away last night, I was down to the towels. As I tucked them into the linen closet I thought to myself, “I hate that my towels don’t match! I bet all of Oprah’s towels match.” What a strange thought right? Yet how many of us have grown up with Oprah, seen her shows, read her interviews and know probably more than we should about her life? One thing I’ve never forgotten is her love of towels and stressing how important it is to have towels that match and that are big, fluffy and filled with comfort.

I’ll admit I’ve tried…over the years I’ve purchased crisp white towels to feel as if I’m in a spa, then brown to match my bathroom décor and no matter how hard I try, there is always the old, worn and what I’ll just call ugly towels- Seafoam green or pink; that are always front and center. You know what I’m talking about right? They are the tried and true, always there, no matter what towels and as hard as you try to dispose of these invaders- they always find their way back into the closet.

Yet last night, as I closed the door to my linen closet I thought to myself, “I think I’m going to keep those towels.”

In truth, they remind me that no matter how hard I try; my linen closet, nor my life will ever be perfect. And- let’s be honest, I’m not Oprah nor should I hold myself to her standards. I’m a business owner with two companies, a wife,  mother of two children and have an incredibly full life- the mismatched towels should be the least of my concerns!

When did we become so concerned about perfection? Isn’t it imperfection that makes us amazing as human beings? So as I opened the door to pull out a towel this morning, I actually smiled and realized that I actually love those towels. So what’s been eating at you? Perhaps its mismatched dishes or an office that is comprised of hand me down furniture given to you as you worked to build your company. I imagine something is coming to mind right now! How might you look at it differently today? Rather than beat yourself up, consider smiling and finding what’s good about it and moving on because if it’s not fixed by now- odds are it will be that way next year and the year after too.

My vow is to stop seeking perfection and instead embrace the gorgeous chaos that is my life, imperfections and all. What about you?

Share here on our blog! What imperfection is eating at you? How might you see it differently going forward?

Written by Traci Bild, Mindset Mentor

www.GYGB.com