What Compelled me to Throw a Ball at My Son’s Head?

 

It’s not often that you try to nail your 8 year old son in the face with a hard rubber ball. But last week, that’s exactly what I did. When I missed, my son Noah taunted me with a little booty dance. “You little stinker” I yelled, “I’m gonna get you”. I quickly grabbed another ball and while staring directly at Noah, fired it at Paris—my 10 year old daughter—slamming her square in the chest. “You’re going down mom”, she shrieked in mock fury. The next ball flew out of my hands and right into my husbands…crap I’m in trouble! He then begins to fire off balls so hard and fast I thought he might put a hole through our garage door. We were all red-faced, sweaty and slightly hysterical. It was awesome.

 dodge ball

Sounds kind of sketchy, I know, but don’t worry, I wasn’t beating my kids.  I was just playing with them . . . a good old fashioned game of dodge ball. You see, I’m tired of sitting it out. Day after I day I watch my kids play — baseball and gymnastics, swinging and jumping on the trampoline – and I sit and watch.  We cart our kids around from one activity to another, they play while we “busily” attend to our to do list, or scroll through Facebook, or just zone out. But I’m sick of it. Call me selfish but I want to have fun too.  And rather than continue to think about it, last week I decided to do something . . . starting with this incredibly fun game of dodge ball.  And guess what, since our first game, we’ve been out there every day playing.

 

I bet when you were a kid, there were things you loved to do, that brought you incredible joy. In most cases, you didn’t even think about what you were doing, you just did it: hula hooping, tea parties, dancing, putting on your mother’s make up and more. Do you remember that feeling of joy that playing brought you? When I was a girl, I loved to jump into my bedroom closet and play spaceship with my brother Todd. “Captain, ready for takeoff!”  Another favorite?  I pretended to be the drummer for the rock band Kiss! My brother, his friends and I, would put on concerts and I swear…I could hear the screams of the crowd, feel the beat of the drums and the adoration of my fans as I rocked out to “I… wanna rock and roll all night!”

 

I love these memories because playing was fun!  So I have an idea for you.  Join me and bring the power of play back into your life. Just because you’re all grown up doesn’t mean you can’t have fun.  Not so sure? Let me inspire you.  Since our first game of dodge ball, I’ve actively been playing every day.  I have to admit, at first it felt a little odd but within a few days, I felt different; freer, lighter, giddier, and my kids were commenting on how much fun they were having too.  What started as an experiment has morphed into a true reconnection with my girl; the one whose life was ruled by giggles, imagination, and adventure . . . As opposed to anxiety, stress and rigid schedules. 

 

The more I play the more I remember who my girl was, what she enjoyed and more importantly, how she felt.  While I love my life and being a “grown up”, I miss the freedom of my youth (When the words guilt, fear, and worry weren’t even in my vocabulary). As I’m learning to play again, and get my girl back, I’m also weaving that feeling of joy into everything else I do. It’s as if a light switch has been turned on and a breath of fresh air has infused my life.

 

So here is your mission: start playing. Do something you used to do as a kid — jump rope or hula hoop instead of going to that dreaded fitness class.  Or if your kids are playing, get in the game and play with them.  If you’re not sure exactly what to do, start by playing a game of dodge ball!

 

Each week, as part of my Power of Play blog series, I will share what I’m doing . . . to fuel ideas for you!  I encourage you to get in the game and give play a try (starting with Dodge Ball this week).  While it was difficult to figure out what to do at first, it’s now easy- because I’m having so much fun and you will too!

 

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Written by Traci Bild, Founder of the Get Your Girl Back movement & expert on Women’s Issues

12 thoughts on “What Compelled me to Throw a Ball at My Son’s Head?

  1. Julie Podewitz
    March 17, 2014 at 12:06 pm

    Love this – jumped rope with Ava yesterday. Things “jiggled” that shouldn’t have (me, not her – ha) but it was a blast and I got sweaty – which I love.

  2. March 17, 2014 at 5:40 pm

    Hey guys! Let’s get the party started. Anyone start thinking of fun things they could do to put more play in their day?

  3. angela
    March 17, 2014 at 6:08 pm

    I commit to dancing with my daughter! I will also let her play doctor on me and play with my hair. I know, she’s only four, so I have to grow with her. :)

    1. Traci Bild
      March 18, 2014 at 12:47 pm

      I love this! What a great idea to let her play doctor on you! So fun!!!!

    2. Traci Bild
      March 28, 2014 at 5:27 pm

      Such a lucky little girl!!

  4. March 18, 2014 at 5:47 am

    Inspiring, Traci! I was never a dodgeball fan, but loved hopscotch, jump rope, swings…

    1. Traci Bild
      March 18, 2014 at 12:46 pm

      Awe so Melody, I promise, if you do just one of those things this week- hopscotch, jump rope or swing at the park with your daughter you will feel something you haven’t felt in years…I double dog dare you!!!!

  5. Julie McMahon
    March 18, 2014 at 8:45 am

    How fun! I enjoyed reading about your playtime with your family, love how you guys are creating wonderful memories that will last a lifetime.

    Fun things for me are dancing in the morning when everyone is still asleep, I put on my headphones and dance like no one is watching and riding my bike through Brooklyn – noodling around,

    1. Traci Bild
      March 18, 2014 at 12:45 pm

      Julie, I love love love that you dance in the morning, what a crazy awesome way to start the day? It’s impossible to be unhappy or down when dancing. Thanks for sharing!!!

  6. March 30, 2014 at 4:55 pm

    My soul lit up with joy as I recalled playing as a child with such passion. I just returned from the park & my girls giggled when I stayed on the swing set and jumped off tumbling in the grass. Thank you Traci for being the spark that ignites the girl within!

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